When positivity is negative

“Bring me solutions, not problems”. Sound familiar?

Optimism and positivity are often touted as indispensable qualities. We’re told to keep our chins up, see the glass as half full, and always look on the bright side. However, as refreshing as this eternal sunshine can be, too much positivity can lead to some surprisingly dark spots.

You may be proud to be the kind of leader who’s relentlessly optimistic, convinced that every idea is a golden ticket, every project a surefire success. Your team, inspired by this unwavering belief, dives in headfirst. But what happens when reality sets in? Deadlines are missed, budgets are blown, and the promised land remains frustratingly out of reach.

The overly optimistic leader might dismiss these setbacks, urging the team to just stay positive and keep pushing. But ignoring the storm clouds doesn't stop the rain. Instead, effective leadership often comes from listening to and validating team members' concerns.

When people feel heard, they are more likely to engage honestly and collaboratively.

By acknowledging and addressing these worries, a leader can uncover potential pitfalls early on and develop more robust strategies for dealing with them.

This approach doesn't diminish positivity but rather grounds it in reality, building a culture where challenges are openly and constructively discussed.

Holding space for others' concerns means creating an environment where team members feel safe to voice their doubts and fears without immediate pressure to be positive or to have solutions.

This can be incredibly useful for identifying blind spots and fostering a culture of trust and openness.

As always, it's important to strike a balance. While it’s crucial to listen, the time of course arrives when you need to guide the conversation toward solutions and action. Constantly dwelling on problems without moving toward resolution can lead to stagnation and the dreaded downward spiral. The key is knowing when to provide that space for discussion and when to steer the team toward constructive outcomes.

Excessive, relentless optimism can create an environment where concerns and doubts are brushed aside, leading to a culture of silence rather than open dialogue. When everyone’s too busy being positive, critical thinking and realistic planning take a backseat. The team might smile through the chaos, but the cracks in the foundation only widen.

Until next week,

Take care of yourself and others

Madeleine

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